No, their partners do not cause all of the sexual problems in women, but some can be solved'regardless. This book isn't about pointing fingers in blame. It's about giving pleasure...that's all.

This book is a GREAT guide for oral sex, and really only touches lightly on anything else (to avoid redundancy, according to the authors. To paraphrase, "many great books have been written on technique in intercourse'" etc). The authors were very specific in the problems pleasing most women, orally and otherwise. It addresses that all women are different, there's nothing that will work on everyone, and tips on how to find out what your female partner enjoys.

Even men (and women) that *think* they know how to satisfy a woman would learn something from this sensitive, well-written book. It's full of sexy secrets that will bring something new to bed...or improve old acts.

WARNING!!! THIS BOOK IS ALL ABOUT PLEASING WOMEN, mostly orally. If you're expecting anything but a book telling you how to UNSELFISHLY please a woman... look elsewhere. I think the title covers that, but some people just don't seem to understand.

This is a technical guide on how to cause the female orgasm.

Almost every page has artful, but very helpful, illustrations. I also like the *very* open ideas this book supports exploring (anal stimulation, for example).

The book is written for men, to use on women, it translates well for women to use on other women, too. The sections discussing penetration with the penis could easily be done with the hands, or device. The oral and hand stimulation sections need no translation.

My only true complaint about this book is size. It's a very large book. It's a pretty quick read, and easy to understand, but it won't fit on my bookshelf. It's more of a coffee-table book. What a thrill to your guests if *this* was in your living room.

The words: "X-Spot is cervix"

The X-Spot is simply a new name for the cervix. Her technique only shows you how to tactically rub it and briefly explains why it feels as it does. Any simple female anatomy book would show you where the cervix is and you could find it on your own, it isn't that difficult.

The book is also only 160 pages, the numbering starting with the very first opening page of 'What are people saying about X-tasy Spot?" In fact, chapter one starts at page 19, including only three tiny sex stories complimenting the book, chapter two her little 'sensuality quiz' and chapter three finally getting into the meat of the subject. Not only do the pages have rather large print, some are even FILLED ENTIRELY with illustrations, and even more are filled with little 'surveys' and journal pages, and the last 15 pages are just rip-outs of what was illustrated in chapter 3 and 4, in fact they are the EXACT SAME THING, not even reworded.

To further criticize this book, its written to be read by a female. This largely contradicts how the book should be formed, seeing as how its a GUIDE to be used ON a female, where this would say 'You(female) read this, then tell your boyfriend about it'. The book in no way happens to mention this little detail which greatly upset me.

"Becoming Orgasmic" is very professionally written by doctors, with a lot of clinical research, both their own and by others. What I appriciated was that the doctors did not present a quick-fix, one size fits all solution. This book is meant to help a woman heal herself. THe book stayed respectful and lets the woman that she is not alone and that her dyfunction does not make her weird or strange.

While reading it I found myself cheering out loud over and over again, "You go girl, say it like it is!"

After reading this book I can testify that Betty does not consider monogamous heterosexuality to be an "invalid life choice", but rather there are real breakdowns within the model (that never gets any press until now) and there are other sexual lifestyles that are just as valid. She has nothing to be bitter about! She's just got the truth that's hard to take. I saw V-Day in Madison Square Garden and read the book. And if the V-Girls can't handle criticism, then get out da' kitchen!

Orgasms For Two is both socio-sexual commentary and Betty's guide to creating sexual pleasure. And what she taught me has revolutionized the sex with my boyfriend. Before, we were resigned to never having orgasms during intercourse. Not anymore!